I do not have children, but I can’t stress enough how important this is. As an adult think of all the self-doubt and negative chatter you have going on in your own head, and we know better than to believe the doubt and negativity (although sometimes we still do). Children do not know better, they are going to believe what you tell them…so make sure you are uplifting and speaking to them as though they are intelligent, smart, successful, talented, healthy, and good enough. Never forget that they will live up or down to the expectations you have of them.
Do you want to make positive changes in your life, eat better, or begin exercising but you just don’t know where to start? Join me for my March into Awareness accountability group starting March 1. You have nothing to lose, but excuses. The only price of admission is the willingness to be honest with yourself, and a journal. If you are interested or would like more information like or comment below!!
GRACE…what does it mean to you? I am a pretty positive person, but I can tell you I fail a lot, and I mean a lot. And that is where grace comes into play for me. One of my goals for this week was to get back on track with eating cleaner, and yet here I sit with a caramel cooler from Caribou. Grace allows me to be at peace with this failure, it allows me to realize that I am still making positive changes as I am still tracking what I am eating even if I am not always eating the right stuff, it gives me the courage to own and admit my shortcomings, and it reminds me that I am work in progress and that is okay.
How are you allowing grace to work in your life?
“When you stop doing what you think you are supposed to do, and start doing what you were meant to do, that’s when the script ends and life really begins.” ~ Unknown
I am so happy to share that my “script” will be ending this year. All of my life my passion has been about personal development, reading, and learning. I knew from a very young age I wanted to speak, motivate, inspire, and encourage others; but I never really knew in what form or fashion.
Little did I know when I picked up that first Les Brown book when I was eleven that that was the beginning of a 25 year journey that would bring me full circle to where I am today. God had been lining things up over the past 25 years I just didn’t know it.
For the past 10 years, I have been on a continuous journey to find work that aligned with what motivated me, where my passion would meet my purpose. I wanted to work to make a difference, not just a paycheck. I was in search of the following:
• Autonomy: I wanted to be able to plan my work and work my plan on my terms.
• Control: I wanted to be my own boss.
• Financial: I wanted to have endless earning potential with the only thing standing between me and that potential was myself, not a boss, a budget, or an annual review.
• Freedom: I wanted to be able to be free to take risks and follow my own path.
• Inspiration: I wanted to be inspired by my work, and those who I was helping.
• Mastery: I wanted to be encouraged to build competence, and better myself everyday.
• Purpose: I wanted to be contributing to something bigger than myself.
• Refreshing: I wanted time every day to think, connect, and recharge.
• Virtual, portable, and flexible: I wanted to be able to work from anywhere I had a Wi-Fi connection.
I am so grateful for the opportunity to design my life by getting to continue my lifelong passion of reading and personal development all the while educating, empowering, and encouraging others to become the best versions of themselves! I am so inspired and passionate about this. I truly believe that I have the greatest opportunity in front of me that contains all of the things I was looking for in my work!
I have BIG DREAMS and will be building a team with others who are also willing to DREAM BIG! I want to live simply, love generously, speak truthfully, and work diligently! And if at times I fall short, I will just keep going and growing!
TEAM FLAWED & FABULOUS is in it’s infancy, but will be steadily growing with those who want to educate, empower, and encourage others to THINK POSITIVELY, RADIATE CONFIDENCE, EAT HEALTHY, EXERCISE, WORRY LESS and LAUGH MORE! This gift of freedom is not reserved for a chosen few, but it is one that is available to anyone who wants to make the choice to step out of their comfort zone, help others, dream big, and love the life you have while creating the life of your dreams. Don’t worry whether or not you are qualified for this gift, rather ask yourself if you are called to this gift. If anything in this post resonates with you, I would love to speak with you!
In my previous post I stated that I decided 2016 was going to be my #yearofYES, but what does that really mean?
The #yearofYES is not about saying YES to everything that anyone asks me to do. In fact, sometimes it actually means saying no. #yearofYES is about me saying YES to things that I have let fear hold me back from, saying YES to becoming the best version of myself, saying YES to things that challenge me and force me to step out of my comfort zone, and saying NO to things that no longer serve me or add value to my life.
YES…to figuring out what is going on with my body and my heath. I have a few medical issues that I am trying to get to the bottom of (extreme fatigue, weight gain, low thyroid, high cortisol, and low iron stores), and hopefully figuring those things out will make a drastic difference in how I feel.
YES…to being in the best shape of my life by the end of 2016.
YES…to wearing dresses! In the last 20 years I have probably worn a dress two or three times. I don’t like how they look on me, but that is going to change.
YES…to being comfortable in my own skin and wearing a swimsuit with confidence.
YES…to eating to fuel my body rather than eating to feel good.
YES…to walking by faith, not by sight.
YES…to no longer feeling sick and tired.
YES…to living rather than just going through the motions.
YES…to creating memories that will last a lifetime.
YES…to being a leader.
YES…to completing my first marathon.
YES…to financial freedom.
YES…to loving myself.
YES…to changing lives.
YES…to achieving greatness.
YES…to living my purpose while pursuing my passion.
YES…to surrounding myself with people who are going to lift me higher.
YES…to defining my own path.
YES…to determining what success looks like to me.
YES…to collecting experiences, not things.
YES…to believing in myself.
YES…to building my days around what is important to me.
YES…to focusing on faith, not fear.
YES…to living a life I love.
YES…to failing forward.
YES…to getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.
YES…to always believing that something wonderful is going to happen.
My biggest YES this year was saying YES to coaching!! I can’t wait to tell you all about it because I am so excited!!
Have you ever just known that you were meant to do something big, but you just couldn’t quite figure out what? That has basically been the story of my life for the last 10 years. I graduated from law school 10 years ago in May (I honestly can’t believe it was that long ago), but I am not practicing. You may be thinking why in the world did she even go to law school then? Great question! I went to law school because I love public speaking, and I wanted to be in court. You see I didn’t know any lawyers, so all I knew was what I saw on TV. The reality is that you are rarely in court getting to speak like I wanted to, as trials are few and far between. My passion for speaking was sparked back when I was eleven and I came across a book by Les Brown. I fell in love with the book and personal development, and I wanted to be a motivational speaker. That passion for personal development has never left. I used to have my mom take me to the library just so that I could look for more books. Today I am the proud owner of over 400 books! The library and bookstore are definitely my happy places.
At the end of 2013, I was asked to step in and run a professional fiduciary company through a wind-down process. Long story short, the owner admitted to stealing from clients and the company could no longer get bonded, so it need to wind-down. So 2014 was a pretty stressful year facilitating the transfer of over 100 clients to new fiduciaries all while keeping the company running smoothly and ensuring all of the client’s needs were being met. In the midst of this mess, my dad died somewhat unexpectedly. When all was said and done in November of 2014 I was left trying to figure out what’s next. It was also the first time I had to breathe and process everything that had happened that year.
I spent the first half of 2015 in self-reflection really trying to figure out what I was supposed to be doing with my life. What was my purpose? I knew I was supposed to be doing something that was so much bigger than myself, but I still just didn’t know what that was. I knew that I didn’t want to be in corporate America. I knew that I really wanted flexibility and freedom in my schedule. I knew that I really didn’t want to work for someone else. I knew that I wanted to leave my mark on this world, and make a difference in other people’s lives. I knew that I wanted to speak, and be a voice for those who might need to hear what I have to share. I also knew that I had massive student loan debt. Quite honestly, I just felt stuck. I prayed, I read, I prayed some more, and I just continued being me. I really tried to have faith that my path would be revealed to me.
When you feel stuck, it is kind of hard to move. Late 2015 I knew that it was time to start moving and making changes…to my attitude, my gratitude, my faith, my health, and my fitness. You know what they say…nothing changes until you do!
It was probably in November that I decided 2016 was going to be my #yearofYES! Stay tuned this week to find out what the heck that means!!